Happy, joy, smile, exuberance, jolly, all similar words that don’t need an explanation. All words signifying something you want on a daily basis, happiness. We all strive for happiness in our daily lives, but what is happiness? To some happiness is simply putting food on the table. For others it’s seeing their significant other smile, and others sadly are happiest when causing others discomfort/harm.
So if happiness can be so many things, what truly defines happiness, and just how do you make someone else happy?
Once you think about what makes you happy one may learn that their happiness is relative to their needs being met. If a person is happy with a job and paying their bills and providing for their family then they are happy because they have their needs met. That is perfectly fine, but what of those other feelings you get as a human? Your wants? Wants, more times than not aren’t necessities. So going by the “theory of happiness is relative to your needs being met”, why do they factor into your happiness? Is it because the desire for these wants becomes so powerful they evolve from a want to a Need. A new need that soon began to ebb away at your happiness because this new need isn’t being met. If your happiness is relative to your needs being met, then at this point you are no longer happy.
Happiness is now giving way to sadness and Lord forbid resentment. All Because a want grew into a need and it wasn’t met… what do you do now?
Does one person decide that their new need isn’t worth the trouble and never try to meet it? All the while they are growing in sadness and rage about that fact. Soon losing all concept of being happy anymore Will make said person embody rage and resentment to their current situation.
Does that person reevaluated their needs and find a way to achieve them all so they can maintain their relative happiness. Even though this new need isn’t a true necessity, it has now become necessary to maintain their current level of happiness. So as long as happiness is the result it’s okay to strive for your new need. When it’s all said and done the said person will be happier, and have that demeanor around others, so everyone who knows them intimately benefits from them getting their needs met.
With that said, I conclude that happiness is relative to your needs being met. It is also okay for you to go after things you want, making them into needs once you necessities have all been met. There is no shame in a smile right?
But that’s just my two cents on the world around me.